Alcohol

[Kitty]

Is this an annoying scenario or what!!!!!

I have kind of quit drinking alcohol completely. I would totally stop if it wasnt for my partner.

Most people laugh when they hear that we argue over me NOT drinking. I'll offer to drive wherever we go and i dont mind her getting drunk, but i have made the choice to focus on my goals at the gym rather than get pissed!!!

The problem is she cant understand why i am as dedicated as i am and gets annoyed when i dont drink with her.

I know all the bad effects of alcohol on weight training and will cut it out totally eventually i am sure.

To save arguments over christmas i said id drink a little with her.

Has anyone else had this rather annoying problem. Not only am i busting my arse at the gym. Eating just the right foods. I now have to try to make someone who will never totally understand why drinking a few is still damaging understand!!!!!!!!

Sorry for the winge just felt i needed that.

[.V.]

Hey it's your body. If you don't want to put alcohol in it - don't. Don't let someone pressure into doing it. Although I'm a complete nonuser of alcohol or other recreational drugs it's my understanding that moderate - as in very light use, not getting intoxicated, occasional, consumption of alcohol isn't too detrimental to training. I suspect that may mean just a couple of beers, a couple glasses of wine, or a couple shots of liquor once on a weekend would be OK. Much more than that would be harmful.

If someone is trying to pressure to drink though, it might be worth considering finding someone else to NOT drink with if you don't want to drink.

[Lady C]

Originally Posted by Kitty

The problem is she cant understand why i am as dedicated as i am and gets annoyed when i dont drink with her.

Maybe she feels guilty for drinking alone or without you.

I would try to explain how important your fitness goals are and if she really cares what how you feel she will drop the questions.

[threenorns]

i'll tell you right now: she's an addict and she's aware of it. when you drink with her, it's like you're approving of her habit. when you don't drink with her, you're setting yourself apart from her - she may accuse you of thinking you're "so much better".

went through all that s---t with my ex.

[Kitty]

Thank you for your replies. I know i have the choice at the end of the day. I wont drink for someone elses benefit.
I have tried explaining how much this means to me and i think she gets it but then she'll say something and i think it has all gone over her head ha ha.

She isnt an addict although i can see how my post could have led you to think that. She doesnt drink at home, its only a weekend if we do something ie party/pub etc.

I think the main problem is i went from being a skinny kid that didnt care, to someone now who is ready to give up most things to reach his target.

The more i improve the more effort i put in. As she doesnt share my interest she thinks there is a compromise.

Its no big deal and i think she is beginning to understand. Just wanted to use you guys as a sounding board basically. See if it was me being unreasonable.


Thank you again.

[.V.]

You aren't being unreasonable.

Let's use a different example. What if you wanted to smoke meth every other weekend and she didn't want to. Not a problem, just recreataional weekend use. How would she feel if you were trying to coerce her into it? Or have kinky swapping group sex parties and she didn't want to? How would she feel about that? Consider giving her those examples if she keeps it up. Just like with her. What you do with your body - including what you put into it, is your choice - not someone else's.

Good luck getting it worked out.

[Kitty]

Thanks.
That makes a lot of sense.
I dont think im being unreasonable either. I will stick to my guns as finally im making some decent progress and dont want to mess it up!!!
Cheers for taking the time to reply as always.

[CF-OC_gal]

It's one of those things that will make a couple find out more about their compatibility. People's attitude towards health and appearance and social lifestyles are tied to their core values.

I've never been able to resolve that feeling like I'm "odd man out" when not drinking at an event designed around drinking (pubs, parties , etc.) But that's just me.