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Originally Posted by westside24
HAHA no no! thats why I said I didnt mean just in the sense of working out! I mean like... ok like I see relationships, where its a weekend, the two are bored, the girl is all depressed looking, never dresses nice any more, never wears make up, never makes the attempt to make a move on her lover, who shes supposed to adore!
Or the guy, just sittin in his sweat pants and wife beater, hasnt shaved in forever. just watchin tv ignorin her ass. not hating each other but just ignoring each other...
I was just saying its our duties to keep our lovers occupied, by our emotions, our conversations, and our physical attraction/appearance.. and I said with our appearance aspect, you dont have to be in shape or be fit, im just saying to try n look good... theres alot of people out there, who dont try, they give up, and they get bored in there relationships, and end up finding themselves attracted to other people..... but I was also saying with the appearance aspect, If you are like me, you know its your duty to turn your lover on physically, why not? why not get fit, it helps encourage you to get fit....
I go to the gym and try to get big n buff, for my girl! not because she wants it, I was a skinny lil dweeb when we met... I do so because I know, what girl wouldnt wanna be with a mature muscular man! but even if I was a skinny lil twerp still, I would still look nice for her all the time.
I dunno, Ive read 2 different kama's (because of there relationship advice)
and a few other relationship books... just what ive gathered.
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Okay you do make some very excellent points,.....it can be concisely put as: Apathy.
That's when relationships fail. Well let's say that's one reason.
On the flip side of that coin, in addition, and not instead of, what you said, there is a joy in marriage that let's you feel like you can be comfortable. You don't always have to be looking your best, acting your best, constantly trying to turn your mate on, and every now and again, enjoy the comfort of just being. I love that part.
I think the problems come when that "comfortable slippers part" over-rules the other parts. But I see no reason to get rid of those comfortable parts of being able to wear sweats and tee-shirt if I want to or my partner wants to, and cuddle on the couch, watch a movie, and tell our friends we're busy.
If I had to spend every waking moment trying to behave like a Geisha just to look and act appealing to my partner, I'd vomit. That takes the fun out of it. The fun is enhances when you can share those tee-shirt moments with those mini skirt moments (well, for the ladies, you know,...generally speaking),....it's the ebb and flow that comes with long term relationships.
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