okay, i spoke too soon: female-specific topic

**threenorns** · 03-May-05, 09:18 PM

i mentioned this in my journal, but hope i get some ideas here:

today, bill and i had govt s--t to deal with, so we skipped the workout (trading it for tomorrow's rest day) and spent the day noodling around the city. it's a 45-min drive and we don't often get the chance. he LOVES going in and out of stores just as much as i do, which is such a refreshing change!

at a makeup store, he talked me into getting a makeover and then wanted to buy me the makeup (to the tune of some 80-odd bucks!

). the colours he picked looked good, but it's been too long and the whole sensation was so freaky, i had to get it off my face - i felt like i was suffocating. i told him to give me a bit more time and a few more pounds and for the love of all the gods, not to waste that kind of money on MAKEUP, of all things. then he threatened me with a necklace/earring set - waste of money, i told him, since i NEVER wear jewellry. i feel like a donkey wearing a hat. i told him if he wanted to buy me a present, i could use a new video card and if he was feeling stupidly generous, a new mobo with cpu and RAM. or a dvd burner - i could use one of those, too.

he rolled his eyes at me and said it was hard getting close to a female who can out-macho any guy in town. i didn't think i was THAT bad.... what's so wrong with liking to fix cars and computers and stuff? it's not as if i smoke cigars and crush beer cans against my forehead, after all. i don't smoke or do drugs and i'm a VERY careful social tippler (being alchoholic and all).

but he's got a point - i used to have a LOT of fun dressing up in miniskirts and wearing stiletto heels (now they call them "stripper heels", or so i understand - the 4"-6" spike jobs) and dramatic makeup and so on. now, my idea of going wild is back-to-back CSI and a large tub of non-fat yoghurt.

how do i get that girlie side of me back?

i'm serious - i nearly clawed the makeup off my face because i was that close to a total panic attack. dunno why, but it felt the exact same way it did when i was a little kid and my mom stuck one of those plastic face masks with the little eyeholes over my face and just a little hole in the mouth to breath through. talk about "House of Wax"! i put on heels and all i could see were my huge, bulging calves - he said they looked fantastic, but they looked grotesque to me and i wouldn't let him get them.

all the fashions are different from what i remember, all the colours are wrong - and worse, i'm 38 while the fashions all seem designed for 18 year olds. i'm afraid if i wore something i like, it'd be short and low-cut and i'd look like the old saying "mutton done up as lamb".

sometimes, it really sucks being female.

CF-OC_gal · 03-May-05, 10:36 PM

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how do i get that girlie side of me back?

Fall in love with a man who adores the feminine side of women. if you two click then he'll bring it out in you.

If it is not you, then it's not you. You shouldn't have to be anything but yourself.

arbit · 03-May-05, 10:48 PM

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for the love of all the gods, not to waste that kind of money on MAKEUP, of all things. then he threatened me with a necklace/earring set - waste of money, i told him, since i NEVER wear jewellry. i feel like a donkey wearing a hat. i told him if he wanted to buy me a present, i could use a new video card and if he was feeling stupidly generous, a new mobo with cpu and RAM. or a dvd burner - i could use one of those, too.

Goddam woman, does he know how lucky he is to have someone like u??
A girl who is into electronics?? That is so hot, it like having a girl, without the stupid crap of females
Now if u liked sci-fi, family guy, south park and porn, that would make u the perfect woman

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**Zoetastic** · 03-May-05, 10:59 PM

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how do i get that girlie side of me back?

I say start small. Get a pedicure or a manicure. Get your hair done. Go shopping. You dont have to wear a ton of make up to be girly.

**threenorns** · 03-May-05, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by arbit

Goddam woman, does he know how lucky he is to have someone like u??
A girl who is into electronics?? That is so hot, it like having a girl, without the stupid crap of females
Now if u liked sci-fi, family guy, south park and porn, that would make u the perfect woman

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except for the porn, then, i guess i'm perfect, lol! i treat porn and the miss universe pageant the same way: i have a big bucket of popcorn and spend the entire time cracking jokes because it's all just too ridiculous.

but what do you mean by "sci-fi"? are you talking the puffy New Age crap where everybody lives forever, nobody gets sick, and they all sleep with whoever they want (ie, alistair huxley's "brave new world") or are you talking isaac asimov, arthur c clarke, and robert a heinlein? i also like sword and sorcery, dungeons and dragons, and indy 500.

family guy is good, but not as good as CSI and south park just cracks me up totally.

unfortunately, i've been assured that going on a date with me is like going on a date with your know-it-all little brother. trust me: guys can talk all they want, but they LIKE that "stupid female crap" - it's what assures them they're not secretly gay or something, i dunno.

arbit · 04-May-05, 01:19 AM

Yeah by sci-fi I mean Asimov, star trek, buffy, matrix..
I'm sorry u've been with guys who are into the female bimbo stuff, u must look really hot, mabbe they expected u to be a barbie??
For those of us with older than 25, and secure in our heterosexuality, and not scared to death of gays(and the gay concept, ie liberals), u'r just fiiiiiiiiiiinne

If u'r ever in the bay area in CA, USA, I'd like to hook up

Try dating engineers/Computer scientists - they would be thrilled with such a girl

DaRkAnGel · 04-May-05, 01:57 AM

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Originally Posted by arbit

Goddam woman, does he know how lucky he is to have someone like u??
A girl who is into electronics?? That is so hot, it like having a girl, without the stupid crap of females
Now if u liked sci-fi, family guy, south park and porn, that would make u the perfect woman

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Does that mean im the perfect woman arbit?

arbit · 04-May-05, 02:35 AM

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Does that mean im the perfect woman arbit?

Sorry dark, u'r too heavy for my taste

I like dem <140 lbs.

**threenorns** · 04-May-05, 07:05 AM

alas, there's a dearth of computer techs/programmers/engineers in sturgeon falls, ontario - nuthin' but trappers, hunters, loggers, and truck drivers here.

<less than 140? guess he's never read my posts>

**Lady C** · 04-May-05, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by threenorns

all the fashions are different from what i remember, all the colours are wrong - and worse, i'm 38 while the fashions all seem designed for 18 year olds. i'm afraid if i wore something i like, it'd be short and low-cut and i'd look like the old saying "mutton done up as lamb".

That I think is more of an age thing. I have resorted to having my pants custom made because not everyone wants to show their belly button - especially in a professional environment - and I don't like the fashion or colors that seem to be popular in the stores.

**threenorns** · 04-May-05, 08:46 AM

what IS up with that!? to me, they look like the stuff i refused to wear 20 years ago - sleeves too short, empire waists (which look plain NASTY on short, barbell-shaped women even though they look fabulous on the tall, willowy type), crayola rejected colours, yech!

and why is it that a butt crack in men is something we love to make fun of, but now they're cutting women's jeans to show the butt-crack or the top of the thong undies?

and don't even get me started on the topic of butt floss!

oh, for the 80s and early 90s, where if it was brightly-coloured, black, or metallic and skin-tight, it was good....

ajarvis · 04-May-05, 09:42 AM

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how do i get that girlie side of me back?

I don't know, I've never had a girlie side lol. It's too much work, and it's annoying! I too can't stand having makeup on my face. When me and my bf go out the most I'll wear for makeup is mascara (I had to think about the name of that for a while

) anything else annoys the hell outta me!

Although I'm sure Don would be happy if sometimes I dressed up a bit. I'm more of the drink beer, watch sports type of person on the weekend.

**threenorns** · 04-May-05, 09:46 AM

trust me: that worked for me (except for the beer - blech!) for years while i was with dickhead. but now that i'm single, it's horrible - i'm tired of getting hearty slaps on the back and "yo, dood!"-'s. i don't mind guys asking me what might be the problem with their cars (complete with sound effects) and i don't even mind helping fix the problem, but i HATE the shocked expression when i ask someone to crack a rusted head bolt for me.

<mope>

CF-OC_gal · 04-May-05, 10:18 AM

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- i'm tired of getting hearty slaps on the back and "yo, dood!"-'s. i don't mind guys asking me what might be the problem with their cars (complete with sound effects) and i don't even mind helping fix the problem, but i HATE the shocked expression when i ask someone to crack a rusted head bolt for me.

YOu either are or you aren't you can't have it both ways or one is truly a lie. Be yourself! I believe there is someone out there for everyone.

sillyme · 04-May-05, 10:46 AM

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he rolled his eyes at me and said it was hard getting close to a female who can out-macho any guy in town. i didn't think i was THAT bad.... what's so wrong with liking to fix cars and computers and stuff

Nothing is wrong with that. Is Bill your hubby or just a guy that you're dating?