Do you still respect "old" traditions?

Merrida · 12-Jun-08, 01:16 PM

I brought this up in an earlier post, but with Father's Day coming up, I'm feeling sentimental. Based on some of my family history, when your closest male relative dies, you cut off your hair. Did I? Yep. It's not shaved or anything, nor cropped close, but nearly 2 feet got cut (over 1-1/2 feet approximately,....again) but this time out of respect.

Another aspect of this culture is that before he could be buried, all of his belonging has to be passed along or gotten rid of. With Father's Day coming up, it's very weird to not see or feel (not only his presence) but pieces of his life. A man who fought in wars and had memories we all could enjoy. This is really weird.

So while the topic was brought up by me before, the new twist to this post is: traditions being honored within the family that many may consider passe. Not different cultures (such as Christmas and Chaunukah), but traditions that for many people probably faded 50 years ago,...any families out there that don't "turn with the times" and "cling to tradition" instead?

Man it's either the sun, or sentiments getting in the way today,....(sigh).

I'm curious if there are any traditions that some may view as "outdated" or, they just don't want to bother,....

What would you do, or not do, and why?

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YesImAndys · 12-Jun-08, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Merrida

I'm curious if there are any traditions that some may view as "outdated" or, they just don't want to bother,....

What would you do, or not do, and why?

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ANYONE REMEMBER THIS ONE....Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue?!?!?

This is a popular rhyme that dates back to the Victorian era and is still used for good luck for a successful marriage even to this day. Each part of the saying means something specific to the bride and groom and the change of life marriage will bring. ‘Something old’ represents the bride’s old life, and her ties to her family. ‘Something new’ is meant to signify the couple’s new life together, and the joys it may bring. ‘Something borrowed’ is meant as a good luck charm from a happily married woman, so that the new bride may enjoy the same happy marriage. ‘Something blue’ represents fidelity and the hopes that the marriage will last a long time.

And I am guilty as charged.......I have to have something OLD, NEW, BORROWED and BLUE......

**Firehawk** · 13-Jun-08, 05:16 PM

I think an outdated custom is that "the man pays for everything". In this day and age, women make plenty of money. I think back in the day when no women had jobs, then it was appropriate.

YesImAndys · 13-Jun-08, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Firehawk

I think an outdated custom is that "the man pays for everything". In this day and age, women make plenty of money. I think back in the day when no women had jobs, then it was appropriate.

OMG.....MEN PAY FOR EVERYTHING????????? Since WHEN???? Until I met Andy, I ALWAYS paid for everything.....The guys NEVER had money, EVER...Geesh, maybe that is why my marriages ended because of WE WERE BROKE.........

..........I'M KIDDING.....

But for real, a lot of gals do the paying now a days around these parts...Either that or we don't have much to chose from in NC....Thank Gods I got a DAMN GOOD ONE......

techknows · 13-Jun-08, 07:26 PM

I think it all depends on the situation.

Merrida · 16-Jun-08, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by techknows

I think it all depends on the situation.

Exactly.

When dating, he or she who does the asking should take the responsibility for paying.

I also think one should, as a courtesy, offer to pay for their half of the date (but, along those lines, I think it's the right thing to do, if you're the one doing the asking, to deny their contribution, but thank them for offering).

And it's not at all out-dated. It is not a matter of money, it's a matter of respect and how you treat your significant other, regardless of income. How much they make should not be a factor. If that were the case, it would worry me more if a guy asked me out because I'm from a wealthy family, or have a good job, and took on that attitude. I'd feel like he was with me for my money. Where-as if he offers to pay, even if I have money, I'd have more respect for him, and our relationship.

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**LiftGirl** · 17-Jun-08, 05:46 PM

When Scot and I were dating, he had a real job, and I was still a student, so he payed almost all of the time. I did make an effort on special occasions, like his bday or Valentine's Day to be the one to pay.

**Jaster** · 18-Jun-08, 09:27 AM

When we lost my brother I didn't decorate for any holidays. All I did was a small understated Christmas tree away from the window that year.

18-Jun-08, 09:33 AM

I still respect old traditions by allowing my wife to cook dinner for me as much as possible. Ditto for the laundry and washing the dishes.

YesImAndys · 18-Jun-08, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by pierini

I still respect old traditions by allowing my wife to cook dinner for me as much as possible. Ditto for the laundry and washing the dishes.

.......OMFG........I HAVE A BAD FEELING THAT THIS THREAD JUST WENT PSYCHO ON "Ps" BUTTOCKS FROM ALL US WOMEN........

Um, you MAY WANNA stand back P.......Cause it is FIXING TO HIT THE FAN.....ROFLMAO....

And with that.......You can ALREADY TELL what I WOULD type to what you said....I like ya and am gonna be nice.....

westside24 · 18-Jun-08, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by pierini

I still respect old traditions by allowing my wife to cook dinner for me as much as possible. Ditto for the laundry and washing the dishes.

Lmao!

Score: 131 Men, 92 Women

Oh wait that was last nites embarassing game for the lakers.

19-Jun-08, 10:31 AM

With all the nonsense going on in my California these days, I appreciate my fellow Californians who stick to the "old tradition" where a man marries a woman and a woman marries a man.

YesImAndys · 19-Jun-08, 01:38 PM

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Lmao!

Score: 131 Men, 92 Women

Oh wait that was last nites embarassing game for the lakers.

ROFLMFAO...OH YEAH, See if I ever help you out again...Te He He...

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**LiftGirl** · 19-Jun-08, 03:15 PM

I cook, but Scot won't eat most of what I cook (I'm not a great cook, but he's a picky eater) and I refuse to cater to him. He's welcome to eat what I'm fixing or else he has to find his own supper(usually something frozen or canned).

The dishwasher washes the dishes; I get Scot to help me unload it if he's not busy. The few handwash items, I take care of myself as they are mostly generated by me.

I don't mind doing laundry because the washer and dryer do most of the work. As for the folding, I watch TV when I fold, and I catch some TV shows I wouldn't have time to watch otherwise.

westside24 · 23-Jun-08, 09:47 PM

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I take care of myself as they are mostly generated by me.

Yea for making the dinner for the both of you to eat...

Thats your business I wont comment on that, but to me, I feel all should be equal... We should take turns, or always do it all together... and it shouldnt even be enforced, we should wanna help each other out... adjusting to someones schedule is different obviously... I would do everything around house if I knew my girlfriend was working a 12 hour day, or something of that sort, or injuries obviously would be another adjustment.

me n my girl dont even live together, but she still tries helping clean my place up, but I keep it fairly clean myself, except bathroom

thats my weak spot... shes a good girl... Hope I can just get her to move out with me... I prolly could but I dont wanna rush her, I member what it was like moving out for myself, and how scared and uncertain I was.