Saw my ex-gf today.

[Gooseneck]

She came into my work and then we sat for an hour when I got off to catch up on things. We've been broken up for 8 months and I still cant get her off my mind. I think I was truly in love with her, but we both became so stressed and aggravated that we just split and went our own ways. Uuugghhh, this stirred up SO many feelings that I had buried away. She's somewhat involved with someone right now so I dont think she's interested in getting back together. I wish I was wrong. How do I move on from this ?? I've dated a few girls since her and they still could not get my emotional attention like she did.

[gymgirl]

I'm sorry gooseneck. I have been in your situation before, breaking up sucks when you still have feelings for the other person. I don't have much advice other then try to keep busy, and avoid seeing her!

The last guy that broke my heart gave me the line of 'lets be friends' haha. that dosen't work for me, I can't turn off feelings like that. I had to cut him out and haven't seen/spoken to him in 4 years. I think now finally 4 years later I could see him and would be ok. Anyway we are all different but my advice is to stay away from her if possible, and keep busy hang out with friends, workout etc. hope you are feeling better soon. man I hate breaking up!

Hey Goose, you are still going through the grieving process and that's normal. I believe you should allow it to run its natural course as there are many lessons to be learned. Be open to them and don't short-circuit its duration.

This shows that you are a human being with feelings. What a great confirmation. Time is a great healer.

[Gooseneck]

Thanks for the replies guys. I'm just going to let things go as they do and try to be friends, for I'd rather have her as a friend than not at all. We'll see what happens down the road.

[midgetcop]

Be careful with being friends though - seeing or speaking to her might constantly stir up those feelings and you may never get a chance to get over her. Trust me, I've been in this situation more than once. These things take time...eventually you may be able to be friends, but right now it sounds like you need to do whatever you have to to get her off your mind.

[CF-OC_gal]

I agree with keeping your distance like everyone else is saying, but being a hopeless romantic, I would say that if you are strong enough, tell her your feelings and try to win her back (if you are sincere).

so I dont think she's interested in getting back together

Sounds to me like you are are not sure about where she stands.

[Gooseneck]

See thats the thing, I think there's that possibility of getting back together. She told her coworker that she was coming to see me, and then the next day she told her that it's like we picked up right where we left off, laughing, joking, playing with her daughter, etc. I think what I need to do is feel the situation out for a week or so and then make a decision on whether to stick around and see what happens or be friendly with her but move on in the same regard.

[.V.]

I think you get one person you can truly love in your life. If you think she may be the one then do what it takes to find out. Not an opportunity you want to miss.

If there is baggage from your previous history together and you think she's worth it, find a way to work through it. If you don't know how she feels, be honest with her, tell her your feelings and ask her to do the same.

If it's not right then at least you'll know you gave it a chance to know for sure.

[Gooseneck]

Thanks again for the advice. Everyone needs a little pick-me-up sometimes when it comes to relationships and emotional turmoil. Fortunately there was no baggage upon splitting up last fall, we just needed to be on our own for a while to assess(?) the situation. I am a hopeless romantic, however I'm not getting my hopes up much here just to be let down again.

[minime]

Hey gooseneck, i think if you truly love her and you think theres a chance she might feel the same way, then you must take a chance and talk to her about it. A proper relationship is built on honesty and trust : start as you mean to go on. Tell her how you feel and if she says there is no way that she wants to get back together then cut the ties as you will not be able to move on and be friends with somebody you are still in love with.

Just my two cents

good luck with it!

I am one who was never able to have a friendship relationship with a prior girlfriend that I had a hot & heavy relationship with. Too many steamy memories to cloud that effort. Good for you if you can do that.