Like Steve said, avoid Testosterone and the like, and you won't have trouble with androgenic side effects. You might ping 12percentt (who looks decidedly unmale) and competes :confused: (well she could if she doesn't)
www.freakzonline.com has some good info, and there are a few serious women on the board who can answer questions (who don't look like guys).
I don't think there's a huge amount of difference between a guys diet and a womans. There's a ton of difference from person to person to be sure. Anyway, I don't think you'll find much advice like a guy's or a woman's magazine here on d/f. So we can help out there.
Welcome, stick around a while.
Fudo